Feeling Alone in a Constantly Connected World
Despite being more "connected" than ever before, many young people I talk to feel incredibly isolated. Social media, video games, and texting are great for staying in touch, but they can also create a false sense of connection. Let’s break down why so many teens, young adults (and adults of all ages) feel lonely, even when they’re plugged in 24/7.
The Paradox of Connection
You’d think that constant access to friends online would wipe out loneliness, but that’s not the case. According to Common Sense Media, teens spend an average of 7 hours and 22 minutes per day on screens, not including schoolwork. Yet, despite this, a lot of them still struggle with loneliness. That’s because online interaction often lacks the depth of face-to-face connections. It’s like having a house full of mirrors—lots of reflections, but no real people.
Scrolling Through the Void
Social media can be a double-edged sword. You’re always connected, but that connection can feel superficial. A Pew Research Center report found that 60% of teens say they feel emotionally distant from people they interact with online. Scrolling through Instagram or TikTok gives us highlights of others’ lives, but often leaves us feeling like we’re on the outside looking in. It’s easy to compare your life to the seemingly perfect images online, but what you don’t see are the struggles behind the posts.
What Can You Do?
Limit Screen Time: Too much screen time can actually make you feel lonelier. Try stepping back and see if it changes how you feel.
Prioritize Real-Life Connections: Make time for face-to-face hangouts. It doesn’t have to be a big deal—just coffee or a walk can make a huge difference.
Talk About It: Feeling isolated? You’re not alone. Start a conversation with someone about how you feel—it might be the connection you need.
You’re Not Alone
Feeling isolated in a hyperconnected world is more common than you think. The key is finding balance between online interactions and meaningful, real-life relationships. And hey, if you’re struggling to find that balance, young adult life coaching can help.